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Boundaries Before the Wedding
Dear Annie: My fiance, "Mark," and I are getting married in six months, and there's one issue I can't shake. His best friend, "Tyler," makes me uncomfortable. Tyler has a history of cheating, drinking too much, and making offhand comments that cross the line -- especially toward women. At Mark's bachelor party planning dinner, Tyler joked that...Read more
Man Repeatedly Harasses Walker With Rude Comments
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I walk around a local lake three times a week. We met another couple there who seemed pleasant until the husband tried to give me his doctor's name so I could "Get that 'thing' removed." ("That thing" being the beauty mark next to my smile.) I told him I wasn't interested.
The next time we met, he brought it up again. ...Read more
Single File: The Other Woman Speaks
DEAR SUSAN: This is my response to your recent column about single women dating married men. You tell us that when the man's wife learns of the affair and gives her consent, single women seem to lose all interest in continuing it. Well, Susan, I disagree mightily.
In the past, I happened to be the other woman, and I desperately wanted him to ...Read more

Ask Dating Coach Erika: 'When is the best time for the 'what are we?' question?'
We have a selection of questions today, ranging from “feminine energy” to the sometimes dreaded “What are we?” conversation. I’m here to shed some light on, and hopefully, demystify a few common dating questions.
Q: What does it mean to be in your feminine energy?
A: I don't use language like this, so I’m not 100% sure what the ...Read more

Asking Eric: Lifelong ‘loner’ struggles to make connections post-retirement
Dear Eric: I retired a couple of years ago. I, like many people, I think, have realized that most of my friends and even acquaintances were work-related. My family doesn’t live close. I’ve always been a loner, so this doesn’t normally even bother me. I recently had a health issue come up where I needed a “responsible adult” to drive ...Read more
Couple Faces Hurdles Living In Different Boroughs
DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been dating my boyfriend for about six months now, and things have been going really well. The only issue is that while we both live in New York City, he lives in Brooklyn and I live in Washington Heights (Manhattan), and the commute is usually over an hour -- sometimes longer if the trains are delayed or rerouted, which ...Read more
Quick Request? Any Waitstaff Will Do
DEAR MISS MANNERS: At a restaurant, if my food is served by someone other than my waiter and I need to request an additional or missing item (e.g., extra sauce or sour cream), do I make that request to the person who served the food? Or do I wait for the waiter to come over and ask if everything is OK?
Does it even matter? Sometimes the waiter ...Read more
No Claim After Decades Together
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 34 years, married for 25 of them. We both brought children from previous marriages into the relationship; he has two and I have two. A week before our wedding, he surprised me with a prenuptial agreement. I had no time to consult an attorney. The choice was to sign or cancel the wedding. At ...Read more
Boyfriend Has Personal Relationship With His Needy Boss
DEAR ABBY: I am a man whose long-distance boyfriend of one year has a married female best friend. (She's his boss.) She is also a tobacco-addicted narcissist who drinks a lot. They chat on the phone and text for hours every day because, as he puts it, "she can't be alone." I think she uses him to compensate for her insecurities. I also think she...Read more

Asking Eric: Friends disrupt concert outings by talking
Dear Eric: We go to a lot of concerts and sporting events, and I want to watch and/or listen. However, so often, others just want to talk. I need a polite way to ask them to leave me alone so I can watch and enjoy the event. Any ideas?
– Here for the Band
Dear Band: It’s probably easiest to address this beforehand. If you’re going with a...Read more
Google Search Reveals Information About Beau
DEAR HARRIETTE: I met a guy about a month ago in a bizarre way: We were riding the same subway car during an off-peak hour and kept locking eyes. He came over and sat with me, and we swapped a few stories. It was crazy but so sweet. He told me that he used to play sports overseas and is now back in New York City opening a restaurant. He invited ...Read more
The Dreaded 'where Are You From?'
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am of Asian descent and have lived in the U.S. for about two-thirds of my life. My pet peeve is when people ask me where I am from. I politely reply with the name of my home state (in the U.S.).
Yes, I still have an accent.
My kids were born in the U.S. and have grown up here; they have no accents and no ties to Asia. And ...Read more
Unwanted Attention, Lingering Doubts
Dear Annie: I have been married to my wife for 25 years, and overall, we have a strong, trusting relationship. But something happened recently that I cannot seem to shake, and it has been gnawing at me more than I would like to admit.
My wife's best friend's husband, whom I will call "Charlie," came to her with a very strange request. He told...Read more
Wedding Guest List Doesn't Include Late Grandfather's Widow
DEAR ABBY: My son and his fiancee are getting married in a few months. They are planning a small reception with only their closest friends and family. Unfortunately, this excludes my late father's second wife, "Bonnie," who has been in our lives for nearly 40 years. My son has no particular problem with Bonnie, but she has struggled with mental ...Read more
Living With Mom Puts Strain On Relationship
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am living with my mom again for the first time in a long time. I am back in my hometown, and as I plan for what's next, living with her seemed like the best idea. Boy, oh boy, was I wrong. Aside from occasional three-week-long visits during holidays, it's been about eight years since my mom and I lived in the same space, and ...Read more
Sorry I Didn't Dress Up For The Dmv
DEAR MISS MANNERS: When I went to the DMV to get a temporary tag, I noticed that every person in line -- about 25 people, from young to middle-aged -- was wearing their pajamas and flip-flops. They all looked like they had just rolled out of bed.
They were also all on their phones, oblivious to others. I felt like I was in their bedrooms or ...Read more
When Intimacy Fades
Dear Annie: I married my best friend 19 years ago, but we have known each other for nearly 40. Our shared history runs deep. We have weathered life's highs and lows together, raised children, supported each other through illnesses, job changes and the inevitable challenges of growing older. In many ways, our bond is strong and steady.
However...Read more
Bad Bed Makes Visiting Parents' Vacation Home Uncomfortable
DEAR ABBY: My father and stepmother have a vacation home in another state, and they invite us to visit every year. The problem is, the sofa bed in the guest room is so uncomfortable that it's impossible to sleep. However, they think that the bed is great because other guests have told them that. I find it hard to believe that the other guests ...Read more
Millennial Life: Presently Aware of Too Many Things Not on Socials
A TikTok video I saw the other day suggested that I should reclaim my attention to the present. Mid-scroll, the app that makes money off my distracted brain suddenly wanted me to log off and be present. That's like the bartender telling you to quit drinking while he pours the next shot.
Be present, as if the present is some enchanted meadow we'...Read more

Asking Eric: Single mom wants to start relationship with handyman
Dear Eric: I'm a 40-year-old single mom of twin 5-year-olds. I'm a professional woman, but due to my commitments to my children and the overall daily grind, I have little to no time for socialization and dating.
However, I need occasional help around the house, and my cousin (let's call her Jen) was kind enough to refer me to her handyman. He's...Read more
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