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Stuck With A Proselytizing Hospital Roommate
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Having been raised in a strongly evangelical home, and having painfully walked away from those beliefs, religion is an emotionally distressing subject for me, one that I am only able to discuss with those very close to me.
A few months ago, I was hospitalized for a couple of weeks. For most of that time, I shared the room ...Read more
The Hidden Struggles of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren
Dear Annie: Thousands of grandparents and extended family members are stepping in to raise children in today's world, often due to parents struggling with substance abuse. While many of us take on this responsibility out of love and necessity, it comes with its own set of emotional challenges.
As one of those grandparents, I've had to put my ...Read more
Grandpa Anticipates A Delicate Conversation To Come
DEAR ABBY: My son just told me his daughter, age 26, is getting breast enhancement surgery. My question is, how do I address that when next I see her, probably in several months? It's not like commenting on a new hair color or hairdo. Old men commenting on female anatomy, particularly that part, are not looked upon favorably.
As I see it, there...Read more

Ask Anna: What to do when your partner shuts down
Dear Anna,
I’m a 35-year-old woman currently in a relationship with a wonderful man (44) who has a complicated family situation. He shares custody of his young daughter with his ex-partner, who has a history of emotional abuse and manipulation. She actively tries to drive a wedge between him and his daughter, fights every single parenting ...Read more

Asking Eric: After years of poor decisions, ailing brother wants to move in with 92-year-old mother
Dear Eric: Our youngest brother has made some poor decisions in his life, and he knows it. While he's had a destructive life overall for more than 40 years, he is now a recovering addict but also has serious health concerns in his early 50s.
He finds himself on the verge of homelessness, in the early stages of some kind of severe illness (...Read more
Grieving Child Wants Friends To Pay More Attention
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am going through a tough time emotionally. My mom is in hospice care, which means she is nearing the end of her life. We are very close. It is obvious that she has a limited time to live, but it's still hard to witness.
When I talk to friends about it, I realize that most people don't listen. I have called my closest friends ...Read more
Is There A Deadline For Returning Phone Calls?
DEAR MISS MANNERS: How long should someone wait for a call to be returned?
My friend and I talk frequently on the phone. Lately when I call, I get a text that says, "I'll call you back." I thought the returned call would come in a short time, but it is taking longer and longer.
It was taking as long as a week, but now it doesn't come at all ...Read more
Feeling Excluded From My Grandchildren's Lives
Dear Annie: My oldest son is married, and while I have always tried to maintain a good relationship with my daughter-in-law, it's clear that she doesn't like me. Despite this, I love my two grandchildren more than words can express and cherish every moment I get to spend with them.
However, I often feel excluded from their lives, especially ...Read more
Forgiving Mother Ready To Stop Enabling Her Black Sheep
DEAR ABBY: I have three kids. One of them, "Jake," is in his early 20s. He has medical issues, so he has always been babied to a certain degree. Jake has struggled with jobs, drugs, friends and places to live. Somehow, he always ends up back with me. I know I'm an enabler. I have kicked him out before, but I never give up on him. I try to be a ...Read more

Asking Eric: Daughter wants to stay connected to mother, but stay far away from father
Dear Eric: I’m a grown woman in a healthy relationship with two children of my own, and I can’t stand being around my dad. I’m resentful of him for a childhood full of emotional abuse that I feel has stunted my personal development. I’m working hard to get through that and reach my fullest potential, but I still really can’t stand ...Read more
Grandmothers Make Toddler's Birthday About Them
DEAR HARRIETTE: I threw my 2-year-old daughter a birthday party last week and invited my husband's family and my family. I was so excited to have everyone together to celebrate, but the day quickly turned stressful when our mothers got into a heated argument. It started as a few passive-aggressive comments, but it escalated when my mother-in-law...Read more
Mourning By Another Name
DEAR MISS MANNERS: We are holding a celebration of life for my 28-year-old son at an airplane hangar. I'm saying "Wear anything!" because we want it to be about celebrating his life more than mourning his death. I plan to wear white.
Do you make a distinction between funerals and celebrations of life, or do you believe mourning prevails ...Read more
Helping Your Husband Be a Better Gift-Giver
Dear Annie: First, I just want to say how much I appreciate your columns! I always enjoy your insights.
Recently, my newspaper ran the column with a letter from "Feeling Undervalued," the woman who was frustrated that her husband didn't buy her small gifts for occasions like Valentine's Day. I thought your advice was great, but I wanted to ...Read more
Woman Hopes To Convince Ex-Boyfriend She's 'the One'
DEAR ABBY: I'm 29, and my boyfriend is 36. We met on a dating site and were together for three years. He broke up with me two months ago because he didn't think he could marry me. (We weren't engaged.) He says I'm the love of his life, soulmate and his dream come true, and I feel the same, but he has commitment issues.
When I met him, I was in ...Read more
Milleniel Life: Turns Out Scraping By Is Not the Goal
For millennials and Gen Z, life is mediocre. Whatever we label the drive for overachievement -- the hustle, the grind, or paying your dues -- we've found that it doesn't necessarily lead to success. Especially if we've redefined what that looks like for us.
It's not just about money. Working 40, 50, or even 60 hours a week with one or two jobs ...Read more

Asking Eric: Cousin’s erratic behavior is troubling to family
Dear Eric: My cousin (more like a sister) has been making some extremely rash and concerning choices over the last year. After she had her second baby, she left her husband and started seeing a series of borderline-abusive men. She is now in the process of signing over full custody of her children to her ex-husband and is impulsively buying a ...Read more
Dealing With a Difficult Sister-in-Law
Dear Annie: I'm a divorced woman in my late 40s with a child in college, and for the past 2 1/2 years, I've been in a wonderful, loving relationship with a man I'll call "Matt." He and his sister, "Martha," are extremely close -- so close they call themselves "Irish twins." Since she lives far away, I've only met her a couple of times, but let...Read more
Lunches With Negative Nelly Leave Colleague Cold
DEAR ABBY: I recently reconnected with a colleague from work. We were friendly, but not really what I would call friends. We reconnected on social media and have had lunch a few times. The problem is, she has become a very negative, aggressive, angry person. She spends our time bashing family, former colleagues and just about every service ...Read more

Asking Eric: Wife won’t tell her brother about father’s abuse
Dear Eric: Soon after we had our first child, my wife uncovered a repressed memory that she had been sexually abused by her father when she was 18 years old.
I’ve always encouraged her to share this burden with her brother, but she is flatly against it. While I understand that, I’ve been reading up on how that trauma affects women later in ...Read more
Mom Wants To Help Daughter With Autism Make Friends
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am the mother of a wonderful, bright and kindhearted 10-year-old daughter who is autistic. She is creative and has a deep passion for animals and art, but she struggles with social interactions. Making friends has never been easy for her, and now that she's in a new school, it seems even harder. She tells me often that other ...Read more