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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am 81, and IÕm not exactly sure when this problem began, but some people always seem to be looking for slights from others. I am sure they can always find something, but I believe it is the source of much unhappiness.

We invited people to dinner whose company we enjoyed. We sent wedding gifts, birthday gifts and Christmas ...Read more

Dear Annie: For most of my life, I picked the wrong partners. Over time, I realized it wasn't bad luck. I was choosing what I had seen, not what I had actually done the work to earn. Those patterns came from my family and the system I grew up in, and I kept recreating them.

A few years ago, I left that behind and made a full 180. I simplified...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I just concluded a five-day visit hosting some young relatives. Both are adults in their early 30s. They have full-time jobs and make decent money, although they spend it as fast as they get it. My concern is their pot smoking.

Recreational marijuana is legal here as well as where they live. During their visit, they smoked joints ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: Unfortunately, as the youngest child of two immigrants and the first person in my family to be born in America, family members have often ignored my struggles and put them off as "luxury problems." My sister has often been silenced as well, leading to her need to be seen. As time has passed, my sister has developed several ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: IÕm hosting a party with my best friend. We used a social networking site as our form of invitations; itÕs a really informal event. My best friendÕs ex-girlfriend saw it and has invited herself to the party. She said, ÒI saw that you forgot to add me so I added myself.Ó

I donÕt want her at the party. There is a lot of ...Read more

Dear Annie: Am I being too sensitive? My niece's son is getting married this year. I always believed I was close to her family, but when the "save the date" and shower invitations went out, my daughter was not included -- although all the other cousins were.

My daughter rarely attends family functions, so when one of my sisters asked why "...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I'm a senior male who has been married and divorced twice. For the last eight years, I have been in a relationship with an amazing woman. She has always had some control issues, but because of the love we share, I was able to look past them.

I've always been the one who paid for everything. I recently had some heart issues and was ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: Last week, my mom told me that she was married and divorced before she met my dad. I am 35 years old, and she just shared this with me now. I was surprised because she has never mentioned this before. I had no idea there had been another marriage, and it feels weird that something so big was hidden from me for my whole life. She ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: After asking my dinner guests not to bring any dishes, some still do. My question is what do do when Person A shows up with a dish, and Person B -- lovely, lovely Person B, who was polite and kind enough to take me at my word -- sees the exchange.

Person B invariably gets embarrassed and asks if they should have brought ...Read more

Dear Annie: I am a 69-year-old man who is still totally and madly in love with my wife of 49 years. I know many people would say I'm foolish for feeling this way after she cheated on me several times during the early years of our marriage. At the time, I blamed myself. We were young, I felt responsible for providing for our growing family, and...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I was always the wild child and did pretty much what I wanted. My four siblings stuck to the straight and narrow. We stayed close and loving, though. We are old now, and they all lead very comfortable lives. I, however, became injured and gravely ill. I could no longer work and now live on supplemental security income and food stamps....Read more

Skip today's column if you're looking for startling new techniques guaranteed to benefit the children of mateless mothers like you. As much as I feel a special tenderness for young people who grow up with a single parent (my own son, Scott, was only 4 when he became part of a two-person family), what we're interested in right now is you. ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am 22 years old. While on vacation, I connected with a man on a gay dating app. Honestly, he fits the description for many things that I like in a guy: He has a stable job, owns his home, works toward his personal goals and ambitions and has a football player physique. However, many of his great qualities come with one caveat: ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I work in a fast-food restaurant, in which we only go by our first names.

Often, when customers decide that I am the cause of whatever is not going their way, they ask me for my name. My first name is clearly spelled out on my name tag, but I always say it for them anyway, as it is difficult to pronounce. It is an unusual ...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband and I are at a full-blown spring break standoff, and the kids are watching it like it's a sport.

He wants to take our two kids skiing. He's already talking about "fresh powder," early lift tickets and how this is the perfect chance to make "core memories." He grew up skiing, and it's his happy place. I can see how ...Read more