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Grandson Has Distanced Himself From Family
DEAR ABBY: My grandson "Ethan" and his fiancee lived with his mother until four years ago. When they moved out, they decided not to give his parents their new address. It has been several years since my daughter has seen her son. Apparently, they occasionally text.
Ethan was married seven months ago. He didn't invite his parents as he felt they...Read more
Asking Eric: Partner’s work perks create strife at home
Dear Eric: I am in a 20-year relationship with a mostly great guy, and we finally moved in together seven months ago. Things are going well for the most part considering we both lived on our own for the entire relationship.
I have a dead-end job in an office. Same old 8 to 5, five days a week. Nothing ever changes and every day is the same. I'm...Read more
Dear Annie: Don't Rule Out a Career Too Soon
Dear Annie: Kids today are pushed too early to make career decisions. The first two years of college are a good time to take different courses to see where one's interest lies. A major can easily be declared as a junior, and ample credits can be accumulated in that discipline in the last couple of years.
I took a career test in school that said...Read more
Millennial Life: The World We Could Build Could Be Good
The pause was brief, but stark, when some of us realized that a square on the Zoom was located in Minneapolis. There wasn't much to say as a reaction that hadn't been said before. The awkward dance feels as normal now as debating the right time to make eye contact and say hello to someone heading down the same hallway as you.
We have ...Read more
Asking Eric: Mother’s rambling tests patience
Dear Eric: I love my mother dearly but at 84 she has reached the point of rambling. She is still fully in control of her capabilities and is mentally acute, but her conversations are now filled with details about friends of friends and their problems, health issues, et cetera.
It would be one thing if I knew these people, but the people she ...Read more
Dear Annie: Attending the Wedding Shower with No Wedding InviteAttending the Wedding Shower with No Wedding Invite
Dear Annie: My grandson, "Billie" is 5 years old and still not potty trained. We have tried everything to get him to use the toilet -- rewards, bribes, "gentle threats," etc. We suspect he has encopresis -- the repeated, involuntary passing of stool into the clothing. This can happen when impacted stool collects in the colon and rectum, while ...Read more
Asking Eric: After years of moving, widow doesn’t know where to go in retirement
Dear Eric: I’m 61, widowed, and still work full time as a registered nurse in a very busy hospice house.
I lost my husband four years ago, and since then went through a medical scare twice, diagnosed with cirrhosis, sleep apnea and chronic anxiety, have bought and sold two homes, purchased a new car and created significant credit card debt ...Read more
Surviving Cancer but Still Struggling
Dear Annie: I was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months ago. I've been through surgery and radiation treatments. According to the oncologists, I should now consider myself a "survivor." Since I have scars, I'm taking medication for the next 10 years that has potentially really bad side effects, and the chance of reoccurrence is a definite ...Read more
Asking Eric: Pet-sitting incident leads to damage and guilty feelings
Dear Eric: I recently pet sat for somewhat new friends. I had been invited on a weekend trip with them but had a work commitment that meant I couldn't go. I offered to pet sit for them, which is something I've done for other friends from time to time.
During the weekend there was an incident which wasn't really anyone’s fault that resulted in...Read more
When a Spouse's Snoring Steals Your Sleep
Dear Annie: I've been happily married for 18 years, and for most of that time I've slept poorly -- but lately it's become unbearable. My husband falls asleep within minutes and snores loudly and steadily through the night. I lie awake listening, nudging him, turning him onto his side, putting in earplugs, rearranging pillows and counting the ...Read more
Asking Eric: Arrogant contractor makes house work a chore
Dear Eric: I have to work with a very arrogant person, and it is hard to manage his dismissive attitude and grumpy remarks.
The thing is, I am paying him to do work on my home. He is a talented and skilled person, but his personality is very off-putting as he seems to honestly believe he is the smartest person in the room, which is ridiculous. ...Read more
Midlife, Heartbreak and Starting Over
Dear Annie: I really enjoy reading your column. I have a problem of my own I'd like some help with.
I have two daughters in university. When they're home, they stay in their rooms or maybe talk to friends on the phone. They hardly talk to me. They go back to school and I'm home alone. I really miss them. They come back for the holidays again ...Read more
Ask Anna: Is my boyfriend's obsession with data tracking optimizing our relationship?
Dear Anna,
My boyfriend of two years is extremely into optimization and data tracking — he logs every workout, tracks his macros, uses a smartwatch to monitor his sleep, and so on. I’ve always found it a little intense but mostly harmless, and honestly, his discipline is part of what attracted me to him in the first place. He motivates me ...Read more
Single File: Scott's Words
My son's thoughts have a deep influence on my life. His innate wisdom now reaches an audience beyond America -- through YouTube and private sessions -- and is increasingly valued as this world becomes more complex. Consider his words concluding my book "Single File."
"It is quite unusual for the son of an author to write the epilogue for a book...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: Should I tell him why I don't want to see him anymore?
A question that often comes up is, “How honest should I be when telling someone that I don’t want to see them again?”
My quick and easy answer is that, in the early stages, say four or fewer dates, the perfect level of honesty is that you “didn’t feel the connection you’re looking for” or “don’t see yourselves aligned long-...Read more
Asking Eric: Couple disagrees on whether to charge houseguests
Dear Eric: My wife and I own a guest house up the street from our home. When we’re not using it for ourselves, my wife rents it out on Airbnb. The Airbnb guests pay a nightly rate and also pay a cleaning fee, which we use to pay the cleaning staff after they check out.
I like to let friends from out of town stay there for free when they are ...Read more
Married Life Has Lost Its Luster
Dear Annie: I'm writing because I feel embarrassed even admitting this, but I'm starting to dread parts of my own life that I worked hard to build.
I'm 52, married for 24 years, and we have two grown kids who are mostly launched. Our son is across the country and our daughter lives close enough to drop by for Sunday dinner. I used to look ...Read more
Asking Eric: Siblings stage hearing aid ‘intervention’
Dear Eric: I am 60 years old and have had hearing loss since grade school. I’d flunk all those screening tests. My two younger siblings also have my same type of hearing loss and have worn hearing aids since their 40s at least.
My siblings are persistent in trying to get me to buy hearing aids which they feel I need. Yes, I probably need them...Read more
Weighed Down While Husband is Worry-Free
Dear Annie: I'm writing because I can't tell if I'm being too sensitive or if I'm finally seeing something I've been ignoring for years.
I'm 46, married, and we have three kids (two teens and one in college). On paper, our life is good. We're busy, we're stable, we show up for school events and family birthdays. But lately I feel like I'm ...Read more
Asking Eric: Boyfriend spends so much time with his ex-wife’s family
Dear Eric: My boyfriend of almost two years seems unable to break away from his former spouse's family. The marriage lasted 15 years. There were no children, so he has virtually no contact with the wife.
However, he seems unwilling to refuse any invitation from the family to have dinner, lunch and go on weekend trips to their bay house. ...Read more
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