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Asking Eric: Feuding daughters distress mother
Dear Eric: I have two daughters that are estranged. I do not want to get in the middle of it, but it is getting ridiculous.
Daughter #1 did not want daughter #2 to marry her choice in husbands but she did anyway.
Now, a few years have passed and the situation is worse. Daughter #1 will not communicate with #2 and won't even acknowledge her new...Read more
Getting Phased Out of My Friend Group
Dear Annie: I am 52 and I have a good life on paper. I am married, I work full-time, and I have two teenagers who keep me busy. But lately I have felt oddly lonely, and I am not sure if I am being overly sensitive or finally noticing something I have ignored for years.
I have a close group of friends from our kids' elementary school days. We ...Read more
Column: Weeks into dating 'Love is Blind' alum, chef Yia Vang knew she was the one
ST. PAUL, Minn. -- The server at Estelle in St. Paul had just brought over some complimentary cheese curds when Amanda Burke skipped the small talk and started to interrogate her new suitor. It was their very first date, and Burke launched into her “dealbreaker” questions:
No. 1: Have you ever cheated on someone?
No. 2: How many times have...Read more
Asking Eric: Neighbors and acquaintances crash private parties
Dear Eric: My spouse and I are senior citizens, and we occasionally have small gatherings, or what I intended to be small gatherings. The last couple gatherings have turned into large gatherings due to other people being brought by the invited guests.
I know the uninvited people but as an acquaintance.
Neighbors that live on our block see the ...Read more
Struggling to Revive Our Once-Burning Flame
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for more than 30 years. In the beginning, we were the couple who couldn't keep our hands off each other. We smiled easily, held hands without thinking, and felt lucky just to be in the same room after a long day.
Somewhere between raising three kids, becoming grandparents, and moving into our ...Read more
Asking Eric: Mother resents children who rescued her from financial ruin
Dear Eric: I have spent a year helping my elderly parents sell their house and pay off tremendous debt, mostly due to my
mother's spending and hoarding. My father is unable to handle anything due to health issues. I have had help from my family so I'm not alone in this. I am still very involved with helping them with finances and doctors.
They...Read more
This Presidents Day, Be the Change You Seek
Dear Readers: Presidents Day isn't the flashiest holiday. There are no fireworks, no heart-shaped chocolates, no songs you can't escape in the grocery store. It tends to arrive with a shrug, a long weekend and a mysterious sale on mattresses.
But I've always liked it for what it can quietly be: a reminder to think about character.
Not the ...Read more
Millennial Life: The Years Keep Coming and They Don't Stop Coming
It was the twirling end of the mustache I noticed first, before I realized he looked familiar. This was not unexpected, as I had been sitting in the Utilities boardroom for a few years, even before I was elected. When I interviewed him for a story about his time at Utilities, he was still new to his role; now he's the second-in-command at the ...Read more
Asking Eric: Old love resurfaces 45 years later, bringing back old hurts
Dear Eric: I was in a relationship with a man 45 years ago who I loved more than I loved anyone in my life. Then he married someone. He didn’t tell me, I heard it from a colleague.
I was able to get myself together with a lot of counseling. I married a wonderful man who loves me with all his heart, and I love him the same. I was able to stay ...Read more
My Inner Monologue Is Sabotaging Me
Dear Annie: From the outside, my life looks like the kind of "before" photo people put in gratitude journals. I have a husband who is genuinely kind, kids who still call and actually want to tell me about their days, and a steady job that pays the bills and even gives me a sense of purpose. Friends tell me I'm lucky, and I know they mean it. I...Read more
Asking Eric: Son judges parents’ marijuana use
Dear Eric: My husband and I are in our early 70s. We're both in good health. We have one child who is an adult and lives independently but close by.
My husband and I enjoy marijuana now that it has been legalized in our state. Between the two of us, we smoke one joint after 7 p.m. about four days a week. We also enjoy it on special occasions ...Read more
Look for Love in the Little Things
Dear Readers,
Valentine's Day has a funny way of making people take attendance of who remembered the holiday, who didn't, who has plans, who pretends they do, who smiles at the grocery store display of roses and who speeds past it like it might ask a personal question.
If today feels joyful for you, wonderful. Enjoy every bit of it. If today...Read more
Asking Eric: Husband’s childhood friends pull him away from family
Dear Eric: My significant other and I have been together 10 years now. Lately, since he reconnected with childhood friends, we stopped doing things together. We stopped doing things as a family (we have children). He is with them all of the time. I expressed how I felt and gave suggestions on how we can balance and improve, but he only gets ...Read more
Outgrowing an Old Friend Group
Dear Annie: I've been friends with the same group of women since our children were in grade school. We're now in our late 50s and early 60s, and for years this group has been my main social circle. We've shared weddings, divorces, illnesses and losses. I will always value them for that.
Lately, though, I find myself dreading our get-togethers...Read more
Asking Eric: Best friend doesn’t return texts; the new normal?
Dear Eric: I have had a best friend, Beth. I’ve known her since we were 23 years old. We have not always lived in the same city nor seen each other regularly, but when we do, it’s as if no time or distance has passed. We connect immediately.
My problem is that Beth does not always return texts or calls in a timely fashion. I mean weeks will...Read more
Standing Up to Family Dysfunction
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for nearly half our lives, and we've always had a strong relationship. The problem we're facing now is her family -- specifically her younger brother and his household.
Her brother has never been particularly motivated, and although we've always been cordial, we've never seen eye to eye. Early in my...Read more
Single File: Connectedness or Putting Down Roots
Feminism is changing. The vitality that made sisters of us all, women tethered to one another by indignation and conviction, is becoming more personal. The battle for equal partnership is being waged in corporate offices, day care centers, private homes -- no longer by bra-burning mobs in public squares -- and it will ultimately be won by women ...Read more
Forget the apps and algorithms. To find love, maybe just go to a 166-year-old bar
PHILADELPHIA -- McGillin’s Olde Ale House, the 166-year-old pub in Center City long owned by the same family, has determined that being a matchmaker is a strategic advantage in a crowded industry.
Of course they serve draft beer, Philly cheesesteaks, and wings — but the bar has leaned especially hard into being, in its own description, the ...Read more
Asking Eric: Alexa’s eavesdropping makes for uncomfortable visits with friends
Dear Eric: I have friends who have Alexa in their homes, and I understand that Alexa is a valuable tool when used as indicated. I also understand that it “listens” to any conversation carried on in its presence. This bothers me, because we often have intimate and/or professional conversations.
Is this a legitimate concern, or am I being ...Read more
Older But Not Weaker
Dear Annie: I'm a 75-year-old widow who has lived in the same little Cape for 43 years. I still do my own shopping, I drive myself to church, and I host Sunday supper when my joints cooperate. I'm not fragile, but I am ... older. And lately, I feel like everyone is determined to treat me like a porcelain figurine.
It started after I slipped ...Read more
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