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Asking Eric: Couple’s happy marriage breaks down over laundry
Dear Eric: My wife and I have been married for more than 40 years. She’s great. But a reoccurring point of friction and, really, anger on my part is over the dishwashing and laundry at our house. She’ll let them accumulate beyond what I can stand.
So, long ago, I began just doing all of my own laundry and cleaning up the kitchen.
Most ...Read more
Balancing Independence With Newfound Curiosity
Dear Annie: I need advice about a situation I never expected. I'm 37, single and mostly happy with my life. Then my new neighbor moved in. He's charming and easy to talk to, and I realized I'm suddenly aware of every interaction, overthinking every glance or comment.
He's friendly and sociable, nothing overt, but I catch myself reading too ...Read more
'Bake Your Heart Out' event lets kids make sweet memories of loved ones on Valentine's Day
PITTSBURGH -- Valentine’s Day is traditionally a happy day full of love and romance. Yet the holiday marked by heart-shaped candy and red roses can also be hard for those who’ve experienced the death of a loved one and are still grieving.
That’s especially true for children, who often don’t know how to talk about their feelings after ...Read more
Asking Eric: Party attendee makes her own goodie bag
Dear Eric: There's a gal in my social circle who makes a habit of attending birthday parties and, in addition to the piece or two of birthday cake she consumes at the party, wraps pieces of cake to take home "for my family.” Sometimes she even does it without asking permission.
On my 37th birthday, I had a gathering of about 12 of the gals ...Read more
A Front-Row Seat to a Midlife Spiral
Dear Annie: My friend of 20 years confessed to having a crush on her executive coach, which then developed into a flirtation, which then became a sexting affair. I have always known she is unhappy in her marriage, but I cannot condone cheating and have told her so.
She's also started vaping, pierced her nose, talked about buying a new car (...Read more
Career as Connection
Ongoing meaningful, goal-oriented work is the ultimate connection, the taproot into the world around you. By its very nature, it places you in the middle of a varied support group -- from the bank clerk who cashes your check to the salesperson who sells you clothes for the office to the people who work beside you. The routine of work itself is a...Read more
They became 'chosen brothers' in a maximum-security prison. Then one got out
PHILADELPHIA -- Scott Harmon and Mark Williams met each other in a maximum-security prison in the heart of Pennsylvania coal country in 2012.
They had both grown up in the Philly area; both were in their early 20s, at the very beginning of life sentences without the possibility of parole for homicide convictions. Both had sons.
They were also ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How can I meet someone in person?
As the world we live in moves further and further online, there is still the opportunity to meet someone in person, or “in the wild,” as it were. I’m talking about meeting IRL — in real life. While there are, of course, no guarantees, if you’re looking to supplement your experience with online dating, I want to make sure we cover the ...Read more
Ask Anna: Breaking up with my first love -- how do I survive this pain?
Dear Anna,
I’m 26 and going through my first real breakup. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years — he’s my first serious relationship, first love, all of it. We’ve been incredibly happy, but recently some major life circumstances have come up that are pushing us in different directions. There’s technically a way ...Read more
Asking Eric: Feuding daughters distress mother
Dear Eric: I have two daughters that are estranged. I do not want to get in the middle of it, but it is getting ridiculous.
Daughter #1 did not want daughter #2 to marry her choice in husbands but she did anyway.
Now, a few years have passed and the situation is worse. Daughter #1 will not communicate with #2 and won't even acknowledge her new...Read more
Getting Phased Out of My Friend Group
Dear Annie: I am 52 and I have a good life on paper. I am married, I work full-time, and I have two teenagers who keep me busy. But lately I have felt oddly lonely, and I am not sure if I am being overly sensitive or finally noticing something I have ignored for years.
I have a close group of friends from our kids' elementary school days. We ...Read more
Column: Weeks into dating 'Love is Blind' alum, chef Yia Vang knew she was the one
ST. PAUL, Minn. -- The server at Estelle in St. Paul had just brought over some complimentary cheese curds when Amanda Burke skipped the small talk and started to interrogate her new suitor. It was their very first date, and Burke launched into her “dealbreaker” questions:
No. 1: Have you ever cheated on someone?
No. 2: How many times have...Read more
Asking Eric: Neighbors and acquaintances crash private parties
Dear Eric: My spouse and I are senior citizens, and we occasionally have small gatherings, or what I intended to be small gatherings. The last couple gatherings have turned into large gatherings due to other people being brought by the invited guests.
I know the uninvited people but as an acquaintance.
Neighbors that live on our block see the ...Read more
Struggling to Revive Our Once-Burning Flame
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for more than 30 years. In the beginning, we were the couple who couldn't keep our hands off each other. We smiled easily, held hands without thinking, and felt lucky just to be in the same room after a long day.
Somewhere between raising three kids, becoming grandparents, and moving into our ...Read more
Asking Eric: Mother resents children who rescued her from financial ruin
Dear Eric: I have spent a year helping my elderly parents sell their house and pay off tremendous debt, mostly due to my
mother's spending and hoarding. My father is unable to handle anything due to health issues. I have had help from my family so I'm not alone in this. I am still very involved with helping them with finances and doctors.
They...Read more
This Presidents Day, Be the Change You Seek
Dear Readers: Presidents Day isn't the flashiest holiday. There are no fireworks, no heart-shaped chocolates, no songs you can't escape in the grocery store. It tends to arrive with a shrug, a long weekend and a mysterious sale on mattresses.
But I've always liked it for what it can quietly be: a reminder to think about character.
Not the ...Read more
Millennial Life: The Years Keep Coming and They Don't Stop Coming
It was the twirling end of the mustache I noticed first, before I realized he looked familiar. This was not unexpected, as I had been sitting in the Utilities boardroom for a few years, even before I was elected. When I interviewed him for a story about his time at Utilities, he was still new to his role; now he's the second-in-command at the ...Read more
Asking Eric: Old love resurfaces 45 years later, bringing back old hurts
Dear Eric: I was in a relationship with a man 45 years ago who I loved more than I loved anyone in my life. Then he married someone. He didn’t tell me, I heard it from a colleague.
I was able to get myself together with a lot of counseling. I married a wonderful man who loves me with all his heart, and I love him the same. I was able to stay ...Read more
My Inner Monologue Is Sabotaging Me
Dear Annie: From the outside, my life looks like the kind of "before" photo people put in gratitude journals. I have a husband who is genuinely kind, kids who still call and actually want to tell me about their days, and a steady job that pays the bills and even gives me a sense of purpose. Friends tell me I'm lucky, and I know they mean it. I...Read more
Asking Eric: Son judges parents’ marijuana use
Dear Eric: My husband and I are in our early 70s. We're both in good health. We have one child who is an adult and lives independently but close by.
My husband and I enjoy marijuana now that it has been legalized in our state. Between the two of us, we smoke one joint after 7 p.m. about four days a week. We also enjoy it on special occasions ...Read more
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