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Forget the apps and algorithms. To find love, maybe just go to a 166-year-old bar
PHILADELPHIA -- McGillin’s Olde Ale House, the 166-year-old pub in Center City long owned by the same family, has determined that being a matchmaker is a strategic advantage in a crowded industry.
Of course they serve draft beer, Philly cheesesteaks, and wings — but the bar has leaned especially hard into being, in its own description, the ...Read more
Asking Eric: Alexa’s eavesdropping makes for uncomfortable visits with friends
Dear Eric: I have friends who have Alexa in their homes, and I understand that Alexa is a valuable tool when used as indicated. I also understand that it “listens” to any conversation carried on in its presence. This bothers me, because we often have intimate and/or professional conversations.
Is this a legitimate concern, or am I being ...Read more
Older But Not Weaker
Dear Annie: I'm a 75-year-old widow who has lived in the same little Cape for 43 years. I still do my own shopping, I drive myself to church, and I host Sunday supper when my joints cooperate. I'm not fragile, but I am ... older. And lately, I feel like everyone is determined to treat me like a porcelain figurine.
It started after I slipped ...Read more
Ask Anna: Help! I don't know how to handle Valentine's Day in a new relationship
Dear Anna,
I’ve (36-year-old female) been seeing a new guy (34) for about six weeks — we’ve been on six dates, things are going really well and there’s clearly mutual interest, but we haven’t had the “what are we” conversation yet. Now Valentine’s Day is coming up and I’m completely lost. Do I acknowledge it? Plan something? ...Read more
Asking Eric: Conflict at concert stage ruins band fan’s tradition
Dear Eric: I have been attending shows of local bands for more than two decades and have met a very nice group of people who go to these shows and developed many nice friendships. Due to health reasons, I normally sit in the chairs in the back, will wander and socialize at times and sometimes at the intermission I will go up to the front of the ...Read more
Teen's Content Creating Has Gone Too Far
Dear Annie: I'm a 42-year-old mom of two. I've been remarried for three years, and I'm trying hard to do the blended family thing with grace. My husband has a 16-year-old daughter, "Mia," who lives with us half the time. Most days are fine, but there's one issue that has turned our home into a low-grade reality show.
Mia has started recording...Read more
Asking Eric: After brother’s death, his terrible wife wants to stay in touch
Dear Eric: My husband’s brother was a nice guy, albeit boring and a conversation hog. But he was family and we invited him, along with his wife and son, to our home over the years (they lived 500 miles away). He passed away three years ago.
His wife is one of the nastiest people I’ve ever met. She was verbally abusive to her husband, ...Read more
Showing Up Sick Is Selfish, Not Brave
Dear Annie: I genuinely like my job and most of the people I work with. We are a small office, so we see a lot of each other, share the same kitchen and bump into one another all day long. Normally that is fine, but lately one co-worker has turned cold and flu season into his own personal hobby.
I will call him "Carl." Carl has a special ...Read more
Asking Eric: 70-year-old fears he is a sugar daddy
Dear Eric: I am regretfully asking myself if I have morphed into a de facto sugar daddy. I'm in a four-year live-in relationship with a 42-year-old woman. I am 70.
Many might think the 28-year age gap is prima facie evidence of a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. However, to date, the relationship has been the best, as it has been adorned ...Read more
A Fantasy That Raises Questions
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 21 years, and our intimate life has always been great. Lately, though, over the past couple of months, he's become interested in role-playing. He loves to play the husband with a mistress, saying things like, "Don't let my wife catch us," or "I hope your husband doesn't come home and find us."...Read more
Asking Eric: Students give teacher gifts but her boyfriend objects
Dear Eric: I have been a preschool teacher for more than 20 years. There are a few times throughout the year where the kids and their parents give us gifts, which of course is optional. Those occasions are Christmas, Valentine's Day, Teacher Appreciation Week and Graduation.
I have never asked for, nor do I expect to receive gifts from the ...Read more
Picking Up the Pieces After Being Left Behind
Dear Annie: I'm wrapping up a HORRIBLE, out-of-the-blue abandonment divorce from my soon-to-be ex-husband.
In 2023, I came home from teaching kindergarten to find out my ex took the majority of our furniture and moved out of state. He blocked me and erased me as if I didn't exist. It took several months to locate him with a private detective....Read more
Asking Eric: Brother bullies siblings over aging mother’s care
Dear Eric: My mother is in her last months of life. She has been cared for in her home for the last three years by increasingly expensive home health care workers. I and other siblings have suggested over and over that she be put in a care home for round-the-clock care, but our oldest sibling (we’ll call them Jimmy) has steadfastly refused, ...Read more
Missing Intimacy in an Otherwise Good Marriage
Dear Annie: I've been married for 27 years, and by most measures we have a good, steady life. We're healthy, financially secure and get along well. There's no infidelity or drama.
The problem is there's no romance or passion either. I've started to feel deeply lonely in my marriage.
My husband is kind and dependable but distant. He's gone ...Read more
Asking Eric: Wellness check severs decades-old friendship
Dear Eric: I'm a 73-year-old female who happily maintained a friendship I made my freshman year in college.
Two years ago, I noticed changes in my friend's ability to carry on conversations and her lack of awareness of current events. After Covid's isolation, she and her husband seldom left their house, and her husband spent more time on his ...Read more
A Holiday Gift That Left a Mark
Dear Annie: We have one son who is married and has two beautiful children. At Christmas time, I go all out to make sure that I gift the grands things I know they will enjoy and appreciate.
We also exchange gifts with my son and daughter-in-law. This past year, it was an Omaha Steaks assortment, which I know they love to receive. In addition, ...Read more
Ask Anna: The guy I'm dating won't stop pressuring me about condoms -- what do I do?
Dear Anna,
I’ve been seeing someone for about two months. From day one, I told him I’m not on birth control and that condoms are nonnegotiable. Yet every time things get physical, he starts pushing back — asking if we can “just this once” skip it, saying condoms don’t feel as good, or promising he’ll pull out or be careful. We ...Read more
Single File: Male-Bashing -- How to Recognize and Avoid It
One day soon, in the middle of male-bashing with friends, you're going to discover that you're not participating as enthusiastically as the rest. When that happens, I hope you pat yourself on the back and think of me. It was the exercises of self-exploration in this column that you used to strengthen yourself and become abler to give yourself ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How do I write the 'right' profile?
I get a lot of questions that sound something like, “Can you help me write a profile that attracts the type of person I'm looking for?”
In the most loving way, I say, “No, I can't do that.”
And I don’t answer that way to be dismissive. I answer that way because I genuinely don't know what the person you're looking for … is ...Read more
Asking Eric: Holiday hugs rubbed customer the wrong way
Dear Eric: For Christmas my husband and I travel a few hours and stay at a hotel near our son’s family.
There is a man that works there readying the breakfast buffet. Each Christmas he gets dressed in a very festive outfit. And he mistakenly thinks that trying to bear hug strange hotel guests coming in for breakfast is a good thing to do.
...Read more
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