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After a ten-hour overnight bus ride, our small Sister Cities delegation of four from Las Cruces arrived in Lerdo. Tired and rumpled, we were met by some of their Sister Cities committee; the rest would be at breakfast. One member came up to us with two posters welcoming us, signaling the start of an enthusiasm hard to find in public life.

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Dear Annie: My youngest just left for college, and the quiet in this house feels deafening. For more than 20 years, my whole world revolved around being a mom. My days were built around carpools, practices, grocery lists and late-night talks in the kitchen. Now the rooms are still, the laundry baskets are empty, and I find myself standing in ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My daughter is asking me to apologize to her boyfriend, "Harry," for yelling at him when I was helping them move six years ago. (I had traveled 250 miles to help.) The day of the move, Harry didn't take the day off work, so he wasn't there to help. (They had a second-floor unit with no elevator.) When he finally did show up, he ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight years. We started a bit young, but I feel concerned that maybe he does not see himself marrying me anymore. We used to talk about marriage, especially because all his older siblings had partners and at family gatherings we'd talk about their timelines, and we've seen two of them get ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've encountered a lot of fuss about the pervasiveness of the nonapology: e.g., "I'm sorry you're so sensitive" or "I'm sorry you feel that way."

But what is one to say to acknowledge another's injury, while reinforcing that you are NOT sorry and fully stand by your actions? Particularly in a social setting in which silence ...Read more

Dear Annie: Hoping you can offer some advice! My son has been married for six years to a beautiful girl who rarely speaks to us and acts as though we don't exist. Her distance has gotten much worse over time, and we have no idea why. We love her and are just as kind to her as we are to our other kids and their wives. My husband and I are so ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am 40 and single, with no children and no girlfriend. For many years, it has become increasingly difficult to get my parents to come to my home for dinner. They live only 45 minutes away. Both are retired and healthy. As anyone who knows me can attest, my home is always clean, smells great and I love to cook.

Abby, it's a miracle ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend always changes her story when it comes to small things, but I feel like the accumulation of all these small inconsistencies is starting to get to me. For example, she was just talking about how she plans to work at the company we both work at for five more years, but then not even two minutes later, she mentioned ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a very close friend I have known for a long time. I enjoy seeing her and her husband. However, whenever we go out to dinner, she always tells me to make the restaurant reservation, as supposedly I know all the places to go to.

Once we are at the restaurant, she always complains about the food. Last time, there were not...Read more

Dear Annie: My co-worker "Dan" and I started at our company around the same time three years ago. We hit it off immediately and became good friends. We'd grab lunch together, vent about work and even hang out on weekends sometimes. Lately, though, things feel ... off. He's been distant, takes forever to respond to messages and only speaks to ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My 19-year-old niece didn't finish high school and has been in and out of rehab for years. She's about to leave a residential program and is looking for a place to live. Her parents have implemented "house rules" she doesn't like, notably staying drug-free and away from her boyfriend.

I have three kids at home, and I'm not able to ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I work from home, and my roommate does, too. At first, it wasn't a big deal; we thought we could share the space easily and just use headphones when we had meetings. Lately, our schedules have started to clash, and we both end up taking video calls at the same time. Since our apartment is small, there's no real privacy, and her ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have added a dog to our family. We tried to work with many different animal shelters and rescues, but it just did not work out for us to go that route.

We also did a lot of research on getting a dog from reputable breeders, but we couldn't afford any of them. We ended up purchasing a dog from what some would ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm in a strange situation with my childhood best friend, "Lila." We're both 32 now, and while we've stayed close over the years, something shifted after I got engaged last spring. Lila has always been single, and she's made it clear she doesn't believe in marriage. I respect that. But since I got engaged, she's been acting distant...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I recently bought a first-floor condo because I am an older woman with a knee disability. Otherwise, I would have purchased a unit on the second floor of this two-story condo complex. I am only here part time because my husband is not ready for retirement.

The owner above me has two children who jump off the kitchen counter onto the ...Read more