Q: I let my cousin stay with me for a couple of weeks while she was having some issues. Those couple of weeks have now turned into a couple of months, and I can’t really deal with her anymore. How do I get her out? — Sheila

A: Sometimes situations that begin with good intentions become more complicated than expected. Offering a helping hand to a loved one in need is admirable, but when a temporary arrangement extends far beyond the original timeline, it can create tension and strain.

First, communication is essential. Sit down with your cousin for an honest, direct conversation about what is happening.

Be kind but firm. This is not the time to avoid the issue.

Explain that the arrangement has gone beyond what you originally agreed to and why it is no longer sustainable for you. Set a clear deadline for when she needs to move out, and make sure she understands it is a firm boundary, not a suggestion.

It helps to put this in writing, even a follow-up text or email, so there is no confusion later. Keep a record of your conversations and any steps you take, in case you need documentation later.

Next, consider offering resources to support her transition. If she is having difficulty finding a place to stay, you might direct her to local housing resources, shelters, or affordable short-term rentals.

Although it is not your responsibility to solve her problems, showing concern for her well-being can ease tension and make the conversation feel less confrontational.

If she resists or refuses to leave, you may need to consider the legal implications. Someone who has been staying in your home for an extended period, even without a formal lease, may have certain possessory rights.

Research your local laws to understand your options. You may need to provide written notice to vacate, giving her a specific amount of time to vacate.

If she still does not comply, you will need to pursue a formal ejectment or eviction with the court to force her out. That process can take time, but it ensures you handle the matter properly under the law.

While it may seem tempting to just throw her out on her ear, that can have serious repercussions.

Throughout the process, remain calm and patient. It is natural to feel frustrated, but responding with anger or hostility will only make matters worse for both of you.

These situations are never easy to navigate, but with clear communication and a firm plan, you can resolve the matter and regain your space.

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